Crying is the most manly of expression. It is a pure demonstration of the depth of your passion and emotion. Not crying means you don’t have the emotional depth to be hurt. Or that you’ve fully embraced stoicism.
Gender roles are not inherently bad. They’re clusters of traits and clusters are not inherently bad. I happen to object to drawing firm boundaries on loose clusters when enforcing such rules results in (1) individual suffering and (2) the loss of a beautiful diversity of possibilities. Often we find the sublime in random experimentation so I will not support a brutal pruning before the realization of that promise. Evaluate gender traits on their own merits and decide what works for you.